Relationable Tool No. 4: The Magnifying Glass

Helps us to spot cracks before they cause real damage.

Small breaches of trust often signal bigger patterns like mendacity (a willingness to lie) or gaslighting (manipulating your perception of reality). When bad news surfaces, reward the messenger immediately to reduce emotional reactivity. Watch for micro-inconsistencies, shifting stories, blame-shifting, or pressure to decide fast, and treat these as cues to slow down. Ask for time to verify facts, then return with a measured response that protects both clarity and loyalty.