THE MONOGAMY SPECTRUM

Define Your Boundaries


Inspired by Justin’s book The Monogamy Spectrum, this engaging talk or workshop invites audiences to explore what love, loyalty, and commitment truly mean to them. Through candid stories and lessons drawn from two decades in a boundary-pushing marriage and a thriving business partnership, Justin helps participants define their own relationship boundaries, without shame, without judgment, and with plenty of laughter. It’s not about finding the “right” model of commitment; it’s about defining one that fits who you and your partner already are.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES

By the end of this session, participants will be able to:

1. Understand

  • Explain the concept of The Monogamy Spectrum and recognize the diversity of relationship models that exist between complete monogamy and relationship anarchy.

  • Describe how social conditioning, personal values, and lived experience shape one’s definition of commitment, loyalty, and intimacy.

2. Analyze

  • Examine personal or cultural assumptions about monogamy and non-monogamy, identifying where inherited beliefs may conflict with authentic desires or boundaries.

  • Compare different relational structures (e.g., monogamy, open relationships, polyamory) to identify shared values like honesty, trust, and consent.

3. Apply

  • Define and articulate personal relational boundaries that align with individual values, needs, and agreements.

  • Use communication tools to discuss boundaries with partners openly and without judgment, transforming potential conflict into curiosity and connection.

4. Evaluate and Integrate (for workshops or deeper applications only)

  • Assess the health of current relationship agreements through reflection on mutual respect, transparency, and satisfaction.

  • Design or refine a relationship model that feels intentional, sustainable, and emotionally honest, one that works for you, not one defined for you.

In summary:

This model helps participants understand the landscape of modern commitment, analyze their beliefs and conditioning, and apply clear, authentic boundaries in real life. The Monogamy Spectrum is equal parts education, reflection, and empowerment, rooted in humor, honesty, and emotional intelligence.

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